Friday, January 15, 2016

Do You Trust Yourself To Do What You Say You'll Do?

(Please excuse the long post title :))

Does that sound familiar?

Did you set a NY Resolution, only to give up in the first week?  (don't worry, we've all been there!)

This isn't about feeling bad for the things you didn't do, but instead, I want to share the concept of Self Trust. I never really thought about it until it was a topic in my Coaching training at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and it really hit home to me. What is Self Trust anyway? Ask yourself: Do you trust yourself to do what you say you're doing to do?  Simple as that.
  • Is one of your goals to get exercise in early, before you get the rest of your day started, only to find yourself hitting the snooze in the mornings?
  • Do you tell yourself "TODAY will be the day I'll eat more healthfully," only to give up mid-day, and decide to start tomorrow, or Monday, or the next full moon?
  • Do you say you're going to limit yourself to 30 minutes of TV or web surfing, and find yourself still sitting there 2 hours later?
Part of this is just life, right? You can't ALWAYS skip the treats at the office, and there will be some days when sleeping in is the right thing for your body.  But if you find yourself consistently skipping out on the things you told yourself you were going to do, then maybe it's time to think about Self Trust.

This concept made so much sense to me, and it really ties into my efforts to be more intentional in 2016. If I set an intention or goal, then the only person I'm hurting by not doing what I say I'm going to do is me! So why are there times when that keeps happening?  Think about it, how do you feel when you don't do the things you say you're going to do?  It feels crappy, right?  But as I like to say, life's too short for guilt, so let's figure out how to stop the cycle!!

It is possible to cultivate Self Trust! A good way to bring yourself back to reality is to ask yourself: What's my motivation?  Why do I want to do X, Y, or Z?? How will I feel when I've accomplished that?   If you can understand the WHY, and focus on that, it can help push you over the hump when you're struggling or looking for any excuse not to do that thing.  Keep bringing yourself back to the WHY!

Another way to help build self trust is by making sure you're being realistic.  By now, you've probably heard about setting SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results focused, and Time sensitive). In this case, when you find yourself not meeting the goals you set, it's time to look at if your goals are Achievable.  Are you being realistic with what you can actually do when setting goals?  Break it down to the baby steps if the ultimate goal is too much.  You may not be able to do it all, but you can certainly do something!!

Side note:  Typically when you're setting a goal, it's important to push yourself and shoot for the moon.  But if you find yourself time after time pushing your needs and goals aside, then by breaking it down and making your goal achievable, you're more likely to reach it.

As you start committing to things you can achieve and you understand WHY you want to do them, then you're more likely to actually do them. This will help you feel a lot more confident in your ability to accomplish other things down the road.  The more you follow through with what you said you'd do, the easier it will become. You CAN cultivate that self trust with practice. 

Enlisting a friend or a Coach to keep you accountable is always a good idea if you're struggling.  Do you have a goal you're struggling to achieve?  Send me a note! I'd love to work with you and help you follow through!

Have a great week! :)

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